Understanding how people in a marriage or family interact is important in addressing concerns in the counseling office. My introduction to this dynamic came more than 30 years ago. My wife and I began working as House Parents for a children’s home. We saw the influence we had on the behavior and emotions of children, and how they impacted us. We saw how the dynamics in the house changed when children came in and when they left. Each of us played a role in the overall functioning of that family system.